Dating an ambivalent man
It’s better to say they have been “hanging out” and “spending time” in their “loosely connected” relationship. “But he always seems wishy-washy and indecisive about our relationship.
Because of this, the initial focus is often on the man’s lack of engagement in their communication.
Page discusses the two groups of involuntary singles: those who want a relationship but haven’t found the right person yet, and those who consciously or unconsciously are ambivalent.
Both types say they want a relationship but the ambivalent find these things equally or more important: The good news is there are ways to minimize your ambivalence and take control of your desire for a relationship.
When he tries to clarify his feelings, he states what he wants as if it were evidence of the relationship’s lack of viability, instead of collaboratively trying to make the relationship work.
And she certainly isn’t going to try now–feeling defensive herself.As Page explains, “When you get your ambivalence out in the open, you can make choices about it.” Pay attention to signs of confusion – Things like fear, doubts, hesitation, endless debates in your head, and obsessive conversations with your friends indicate ambivalence about creating a relationship.Realize that if you can’t decide what you want, you may never get it. I wish all of you wonderful holidays and lots of love in the new year. I can’t possibly answer all of them, and I usually zero in on the ones that contain all the information I need to make a reasoned judgment.